From someone elses thread:

The question being : why does BS blame OW more than MM?

Its a fair question and on the surface easy to say the wife shouldn't blame OW at all perhaps, and certainly not more than MM.

I'm dealing with same right now. Now, my H is a just newly discovered serial cheater. For him to even know enough about the other women, regarding names, faces, where, when...I would have to make him Flash Cards to work with. So, obviously blaming any of them is pointless. They didn't know his real name and many didn't know he was married.

Except one. This one. She is married. We have met. In fact, I once did her a big favor. In the past, she has tried to cozy up to both H and myself but we decided she was to be avoided as a train wreck. His words.

She met ME. My name has been in her mouth.

I am angry. Not that she f'd my H because in light of all else I'm hardly jealous. But she knows ME.

Now, this is not yet a case of forgiving my H but not her...and to me one has nothing to do with the other. I will admit my rage concerns me enough that I have decided, for the moment, to do nothing.

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