EthanSPK Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 This is so embarrassing, I've never experienced it before. Every time I talk to this girl I can't help but look like a complete retard. I mispronounce/use the wrong words. My mind goes blank. I can't explain ideas. I'm not sure if she minds, though, because she's not avoiding me at all and always approaches me. HELP!? Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 This is so embarrassing, I've never experienced it before. Every time I talk to this girl I can't help but look like a complete retard. I mispronounce/use the wrong words. My mind goes blank. I can't explain ideas. I'm not sure if she minds, though, because she's not avoiding me at all and always approaches me. HELP!? If she likes you, your clumsiness will appear so cute to her 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EthanSPK Posted October 17, 2017 Author Share Posted October 17, 2017 If she likes you, your clumsiness will appear so cute to her But I want to look smart and interesting, not clumsy Link to post Share on other sites
loverboy69 Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 If she likes you, your clumsiness will appear so cute to her This is true. Sometimes what we view as imperfections in ourselves come across very endearing to someone who is at the very least slightly attracted to us. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
loverboy69 Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 But I want to look smart and interesting, not clumsy Men have been asking this ever since I can remember. I don't think there is an answer that applies to everyone. Do you find yourself cool, calm and collected around people you are not attracted to? I don't have an answer but read this at least as an affirmation that you are not alone. https://www.davidwygant.com/blog/understanding-the-confidentnervous-guy/ EDIT: BTW: She knows you are interested in her already if she's at all observant. ;-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 (edited) https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-interacting-with-woman-leave-man-cognitively-impaired Edited October 17, 2017 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 But I want to look smart and interesting, not clumsy If you are indeed smart and interesting and she is interested, she would have figured that out by observing your work and how you interact with others. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 But I want to look smart and interesting, not clumsy Wrong thinking. You want to appear Confident and fun! Smart and interesting will only get you somewhere with a very small subset of females. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 But I want to look smart and interesting, not clumsy Start by losing the word "retard." Is this the woman who asked you to hang out? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EthanSPK Posted October 17, 2017 Author Share Posted October 17, 2017 Start by losing the word "retard." Is this the woman who asked you to hang out? Nope, it's another. Already opened a thread in this same section about her, got no answers. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/638537-how-can-i-approach-shy-girl Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Nope, it's another. Already opened a thread in this same section about her, got no answers. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/638537-how-can-i-approach-shy-girl Crap! So you already have a strong emotional attachment to this girl. It sounds like she is interested in you as well. This is going to sound counter-intuitive, but hitting up other women will stop you from freezing up. You need to take your focus off this one girl in particular. If she works out then that's great, but you really can't put all your eggs in one basket. In fact if you are too focused on her then she will sense it and lose attraction to you. Do you know how to handle Push/Pull in dating? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EthanSPK Posted October 17, 2017 Author Share Posted October 17, 2017 Do you know how to handle Push/Pull in dating? Uhm, not really. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Uhm, not really. she likes you is making an effort with her hair and clothing..... dont do the push pull thing with a shy girl......games are never the answer in any case..... be you be honest and be calm she is as nervous as you are and she already likes you..keep that dynamic and go easy on yourself you dont have to say everything right...but when you do say something make sure its honest.......good luck...deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Uhm, not really. Well... it may not entirely apply to your situation now. Are you working on other girls or just focused on this one in particular? Also... Do you think she is attracted to you a lot or a little? Link to post Share on other sites
Author EthanSPK Posted October 18, 2017 Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 Well... it may not entirely apply to your situation now. Are you working on other girls or just focused on this one in particular? Also... Do you think she is attracted to you a lot or a little? A few weeks ago I tried OLD again, matched with someone but she's still in love with his ex - huge red flag. Goodbye. But no, I'm not working on other girls. I'm not really into that, just don't have the time and energy to do that, besides I'm not the player type. About your last question, it's hard to say. I can see she's interested in me, but since she's not that open it will take more time to figure that out. Link to post Share on other sites
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